Closes #3567
Also addresses plotly/dash#2797

Summary

Address the error described in #3567 by adjusting the module loading logic in get_module.

The error can be reproduced by following these steps.

As best I can tell, the error is caused by a race condition between the multiple threads in the Flask hot reloader, and the fact that Python adds a module to sys.modules before the module has been executed [1] [2]. If one thread attempts to load orjson after it has been added to sys.modules but before it has been executed, we'll get the error.

Fix

• Change logic in get_module so that when should_load=True, we just call import_module right away instead of checking sys.modules first.
• This resolves the issue because import_module contains logic to verify that the module is fully initialized
• Logic for when should_load=False remains the same: If the module is in sys.modules we return it, otherwise we return None

Code PR

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